Saturday, June 16, 2007

Pegging Second Base



















This is Honus Wagner, who was a great ballplayer 100 years ago. If you like reading baseball books, I suggest GLORY OF THEIR TIMES which is basically old-timers telling their wonderful stories and Lawrence Ritter writing it down so it would be remembered.



In that book, there are some tremendous stories about Wagner, who doesn't look like a shortstop but played the position with aplomb. For instance, first basemen were well aware that when Wagner threw to first base there would be a few small pebbles along with the baseball when it arrived. He was more "scoop" than "Ozzie Smith."

My father was born in Radisson, Saskatchewan on June 14, 1912. He was one of 14 children born to Norman and Una Babcook. He was once struck by lightning (in Fielding, Sk), fought in WW2 (and lost a brother, Roy, who was a member of the Seaforth Highlanders and died in April 1945), worked on the farm until after the war and then headed for Vancouver (where he met my Mom). He was an edgerman in sawmills when I was born, and kept moving around when they became unionized in the 1960s (I remember moving from Haney to Sydney to 100 Mile House to Burns Lake in short order just because everyone carried a picket sign in 1960s BC, or so it seemed to me based on what was discussed at the supper table). He later worked for CN in Maidstone, Saskatchewan until they retired him and then worked into his 70s when his health finally began to fade.

My father rarely talked about the war, never burdened me with the tough stories of the "dirty 30s" (only the funny ones, and there were hilarious stories), and gave his sons the general impression that he had been blessed.

My father gave me baseball. When he was a young man, there was a time for work, a time for school (not much, though. Those Saskatchewan kids of that era really didn't have a chance for education, at least many of them), and a time for baseball. My Dad played in a pretty good hardball league when he was young (the same league the Detroit Red Wings would later ban Gordie Howe from playing in each summer) and he was a catcher. The son was not the athlete his father was, but the beauty of baseball transcends timelines and can be appreciated on many levels. I love hockey, but my first love is baseball and it's due completely to my father and how he took the time to teach me the game.

I'm fairly confident that in the history of time no two males talked more about "pegging second base" than me and my Dad. He would tell stories of not actually waiting for the ball to hit the mitt (can't imagine what the mitt looked like), but grabbing it barehanded to save time. The night he died I stared at his hands for a long time, because they were always so damn interesting. He was a working man, so they were rough from years of work (and he had frozen them many years ago while trapping near Midnight Lake, Sk) and worn from time, and his nails were as thick as two quarters. No doubt some of that came from "pegging second base." He was always a very happy guy, never moreso than when talking about the game he loved and the time of his youth.

I think about my Dad everyday. It's been 15 years since he passed (Ira Babcook died on June 14, 1992, his 80th birthday), and he never got to meet either of my kids. Which seems incredible since they have so much of him in them, from the humor to the unique way of looking at life to the ridiculous Dutch stubborn streak (which apparently skips a generation because I possess none of this). :-)

I'm working tomorrow so can't post this on Father's Day, but since this blog is kind of about me and my experiences re:hockey, I think it's important that I give credit where it's due: My Dad. The things he gave me when I was a child, like baseball, are the things I hold most dear today. I still see the game of hockey through his eyes, because that's how I learned the game. I know Bobby Orr was a great player because Dad never said a negative word about him, just watched in awe like the rest of us (most of the players who entered the league after 1970 were called "hoods" and "hippies" by my Dad).

I can see 50 straight ahead, and as time rolls on it's impossible to avoid the past (since I have so damn much of it). I've made a pretty nice life for myself, and had so much more opportunity to make it than my Dad did, due in large part to his hard work and the guidance he gave me.

So, a word of advice. If your Dad is still alive (even if it isn't your biological Dad, you know who your Dad is), then drive over to his house, or call him, or do something in the next 48 hours to let him know you love him.

15 comments:

  1. I still remember sitting in the back of my aunt's van, listening to Game 7 of the '97 conference quarterfinals, and how stunned and happy Dad was when Marchant scored that goal. It's because of him that I became invested in the Oil so heavily over the next ten years, taken a lot of his favourite players (including Smytty and Big Georges) and I've absorbed a lot of his "ticks" from watching the game. (I still reflexively shout "Jesus, Hemmer!" every time he passes when he shouldn't, though I'm sure I'm not alone on that.) Watching Oilers games together became our regular "thing" during the winter, just as playing golf was during the summer.

    I also remember going to his rec games every Friday night; even though the team was full of Drumheller Penitentiary employees, due to rink prices/availability, they had to play out of this dinky little 200-seater in Morrin with almost no glass around the boards. The last few years he played with them (we moved in 2000), I was the de facto official scorekeeper, though I freely admit I never fully understood what was going on at the time: more than anything, I just thought it was cool to be down at ice level with Dad, and playing with the controls for two different scoreboards (an old one controlled by switches and dials and a more modern computerized one) was enough of an excuse to be down there while Mom watched from the observation area upstairs.

    Remember Game 6 against Detroit last year? After two periods, it looked decidedly bleak for the Oil. They'd been playing like dog shit the whole night, they were down 2-0, and to the sane person, they were toast, 'cause there was no way the Wings were losing three in a row at home. Dad and I were sitting together on the couch, and he told me, "You know, kiddo, I don't think they're going to do it this time." But the magic of the run was already starting to take form, and I wouldn't accept it. I told him, "No, I think they're gonna do it." We all remember how that one turned out*. In either case, it was the last game we ever watched together, since he died four days later, and really, if I had to pick one, there aren't many I'd have picked over that one. But that's why I put so much into that run last year: not just fandom, but a desire to see them "win one for Dad."

    I also started going to Hitmen games because of Dad. We kept meaning to go during the lockout, but just never got around to it, not until the '05 playoffs. They'd repainted the Saddledome ice with a Hitmen logo, to replace the Flames one once the season was cancelled. I wound up keeping a semi-live blog of the whole thing, but it was actually similar to Game 6 in that the Hitmen played like crap the first two periods, then came back like a bat out of hell to tie it, though it took double OT to finally solve it. We went to another playoff game that year (a win over Brandon), and a couple more the next year. Mom and I are now season-ticket holders, and our only regret is not doing it years ago.

    Happy Father's Day, Dad. Hope you're having a blast.

    * - My mom wonders if he might not have been talking about the Final, not the first round, since he called Edmonton-Carolina before he went.

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  2. Thank you very much for sharing that LT. But you know it is nice to make grown men cry. I promise I will call my Dad tomorrow, he is greatest man I have ever known I only wish to be half as good as he is. We live in different countries now but I will be flying back to Canada later this Summer. My parents have only seen my son once before he was walking and now making attempts to talk, I am so looking forward to it. This post really re-enforced how much I have to make the most of this visit.

    I was actually watching Jay Leno and he had a great idea. His parents have both passed but a few years before hand he had them sit down in front of a video camera and asked them all the questions he never asked, asked about their childhood etc... The stuff you wished you had asked or knew after they had passed on. Wonderful idea.

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  3. Couple of things:

    1. My dad is alive, though far away.
    2. 5 days ago I had a death in the family which knocked the wind out of my sails.

    Lowetide, I'd like to thank you for framing everything in such wonderful perspective.

    I too watched game 6 versus Detroit with him. We both giggled like 5 year olds at the end & shook hands as if we had something to do with the outcome. It's those fleeting moments you want to bottle up & keep forever.
    Cause once they happen, they're already gone.

    Think I'm gonna go & call him.

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  4. I remember my dad telling me I'd never amount to anything and the only reason that I wasn't dead on the streets was because of him; so I should keep working for him for room and board and little else the rest of my life.

    LT and the rest of you guys are incredibly fortunate...and it's great to see that LT really appreciates what he had in his father.

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  5. LT,

    Man that was a good story. I grew up in Sask playing baseball, just like my dad and grandpa. I will be sure to call both tomorrow.

    KK

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  6. Beautiful story- thank you for it.

    It's amazing what a parent will do to ensure the future for their kids, isn't it?

    My Dad came from Germany in 1956, when he was 24 years old. Left a large, poor family in Bavaria hoping to find some better opportunities in Canada. He arrived in Cudworth, SK (Yes- birthplace of Paul Shmyr and Orland Kurtenbach! That's my only hockey reference),worked his tail off, married a local girl and kept slaving away to support his family.

    He's 75 now, and still would willingly give up anything if it would benefit his children, or especially now, his grandchildren.

    I love reading your too-infrequent tales like this one. Makes me teary until I realize that I have it pretty good, too.

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  7. Oh boy, I never really thought much about this Father's Day until I read that. An outstanding read, though, Lain, and you certainly do know how to lump a throat.

    I was raised by my grandparents and my Dad died on March 7th, 2000. The Oilers played the Leafs that night and that was funny because he was a TO fan, it was also funny because they won that night too, one last jab for Dad to take at me;) I still remember a Sat night game on HNIC when Wendel Clark scored a trick against Edm, he got a big kick out of that. But, he never tried to make me do the same and he'd always root for the Oil whenever they played anyone but his Leafs.

    I've got a tonne of sports memories based around my father. Fandom for me all really began because he was a diabetic and had to go to the nearest real town to get his insulin and when he did he'd always make sure that Mom bought me The Sporting News and THN. That's basically how I learned to read. I'd have copies of both along with an old dictionary and if there was a word I didn't understand, I'd just look it up and go back to the papers. I think that he certainly intended to foster my love of reading, mostly because his own stepfather pulled him out of school in the first grade so he could help him fish. That kind of stuff is mind-blowing when framed today but old-school NFers worked like dogs and you either had a lot of education or you basically had none. You'll still hear people say there's no real middle-class but I don't think there ever was one in NF.

    He had to retire from inshore fishing when he was in his early 50's, his diabetes was so severe, and he never really got over it. He bounced around a bit early on, working as a cook in some lumber camps and the like, and once had a chance for a berth on the factory freezer trawlers but he didn't go because he didn't want to spend too much time away from his family. I think later on, he regretted that. He hated being in debt and we didn't have a car when I was growing up because he'd once bought a used one and it was lemon:D and he wouldn't buy another because he would have to take out a loan to get it:) When he saw my student loans piling up, I think he wished he'd taken the high paying jobs and that he could've helped me more but I just kept telling him, "Dad, these are not like real loans.":) He'd get a kick out of that.

    I don't wish that I'd had different parents but I wish they could've been younger. Him and I didn't see eye-to-eye early on but I'd gladly admit now that he was right about 95% of the time;) We got along better as the years went on though, and there's no doubt I inherited his quick wit and his ability to tell a story:) Truth be told, I always got his love for the drink but my Mom made him quit that once they got married. From then on he was a tee-totaler until Xmas, at that point he'd buy a dozen beer just in case someone dropped by for a visit. Oddly enough those beer disappeared one-by-one every morning as the visiting for xmas Dennis required a "straightener." It was utterly sobering to be in your late teens and early 20's and watch your folks slowing down, though. That's stuff that you shouldn't have to see until you're old enough to be able to deal with it better. I guess I felt some responsibility for it as well because I was not an easy kid to deal with. I discovered the drink at an early age, but I did not discover the cut-off switch. My grades didn't suffer and I only had one minor brush with the law but I stayed out late a helluva lot of nights and there was one Sat night where Mom called the mother of this girl she figured I was "dating";) and the missus tracked us down at 5am on Sunday morning. Dad's reaction when I walked in the hall past their bedroom to get to mine, "I guess you won't be up for church at 9 tomorrow.";)

    The day he died him and Mom happened to be in the city visiting and staying with my youngest aunt who'd just had her first kid. Dad and Adam were napping together downstairs and Dad walked up the steps and laid Adam in my sister's arms and went to the window to look across the street. He collapsed, suffering his second heart attack in three months and he never woke up. His death just crushed me. I was a very immature 25 year old and I hadn't had to deal with death up until then, and my first one was one of the biggest ones you'll ever wrestle with. I was in a funk for a solid year and watching hockey was one of the things that hurt the most.

    I thought a lot about Dad during last year's run. I cried when the Oilers knocked out the Wings, I just wanted to talk to him about it so fucking much. I remember how he called me the evening after Marchant scored in '97. His first words were not hello, they were "they done it, Denny." He was the only one who I ever let call me that:)

    Dad and I watched a lot of hockey but he never understood baseball and he couldn't understand how the Expos were my first love and how I could like Montreal so much in baseball but hate them so much in hockey:) He was also a big wrestling fan too but he had no patience for the promotional gimmick that was Superstars Of Wrestling. He didn't like how "the bigger fellows would be in their with the smaller fellows and that wasn't really fair.":D He watched the old Haystack Calhoun and Eduardo Carpentier and back then, at least to him, all the matches were fair:) But he did love Saturday Night's Main Event and he'd have me wake up for that, ie it would come on at 1am NST. He'd stumble out of bed in his boxers and wife-beater with his medic alert charm for diabetes dangling from a silver chain that hung around his net. It would take him a few min to shake out the cobwebs but then we'd watch the show.

    I hardly go back home anymore, it's just for xmas and even then with family in and out all the time, it's hard to walk into that house without seeing him in his chair. Plus, Mom's back and forth between home and the city so I get to see her plenty. Just last night Sat me and the LL were out there keeping her company while my sister and her family were camping and Mom was telling me about her and Dad courting and how they used to always babysit for some older friends of their's. The more things change, I guess;) I used to make it out home once a summer though, for this charity tournament that was held in the main town and it always fell on Father's Day weekend. I'd pick up some flowers on the way out of the city and go visit his grave. I'd touch the headstone and lay down the flowers and the tears would come but then I'd wind up laughing because he always said he didn't want anyone fussing over him when he was gone;)

    We're having a bar-b-q at my sister's place tomorrow, it's not for Father's Day as much as it is for my cousin who's about to start work with the Coast Guard and he's heading out for a few months on Wed. And it's funny that you mentioned your father's hands, LT, because my aunt's boy, Adam, has his grandfather's hands. The way they're dimpled in the same place is remarkable, really. The young fellow is a quick study with the karate and he's dandy with the hockey stick and the softball bat, and I think that comes from his father's side to be honest;) The only things I was ever really good at was thinking games and hitting a ball and I keep trying to pass the former on to him but I don't know if it will take;) Kids go through different stages and about a couple of years ago he became facisinated with his grandfather on his mom's side. He wanted to know all about him. I wish he could've experienced some of it first-hand.

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  8. Damn, Dennis- you made me cry too.

    I'm going to Mom and Dad's to cook them a nice meal.

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  10. LT, Dennis, Doogie, that was some really good stuff. Thanks for sharing.

    The Habs are still my second favourite team because when I was younger I pretty much had to hope they'd win so that my dad would be in a good mood. The only time I ever heard him swear was when the Canadiens would get scored on. I remember him being pretty happy in 1993.


    Hockey is one of the few things that my dad and I can talk about freely, every time I call home now we find reason to talk about something related to it. I'm definitely calling home tomorrow/today to at least leave a message, but I think they're all up at the cottage.


    You guys ever read Roy MacGregor's Home Team? It's about the father-son connection in hockey. After I read it I was hoping I'd get to play just once more with my dad, and i made sure to treasure it when we did get to play again.

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  11. Plan: Log onto Lowetide and read about hockey.

    Result: Get a lump in my throat.

    You know: That lump that temporarily appears to try to fill an empty void where my father once was. Hits somewhere between the throat and the gut and sucks the wind out.

    Thanks for that.
    Great read. An example of why sport is actually well-loved. It's not the fame, glamour or glitz. It's because it gives sons (and daughters) and dads (and moms too) something to share.

    No commissioners, team owners, players or other can take that away.

    I'm shaking my fist at you, Lowetide, for pulling a fast one. But it was a great surprise.

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  12. Well, I've tied a few on, and while my story can't hope to compare to LT's, Doogie's or Dennis', I may as well add in my own two cents about my Dad.


    My Dad's all of 44 years old. 45 in a couple days, but that's besides the point. Being that I'm all of 19 years old, I have a very young Dad. His life has been anything but easy. In the Early 90's he was making great money at the airport. After meeting his best friend (who now lives in BC, and is probably #2 to me, as Dad just stumbled up the stairs a few minutes ago) and feeling he was finally on his way, my Dad managed to tear a fusion in his back in 1993. After years of rehab he was finally able to find another job (during the time of his rehab my Mother worked 3 separate Jobs - I'll get more in to her later, and her story intricately involves Dad's, she is a spectacular woman, but today is Dad's day) at only half of the pay he'd had at the airport in '95. He was retrained in Customer Service at Grant MacEwan and went through a few jobs in a few short years before settling at a Dry Wall company for nearly a decade.

    This is where the fun begins, in the last 4 years, and in order to fully tell the defining story of my Father I must begin with my Mother - which is pretty fitting, in my mind at least.

    It began with a trip to Vegas. My Dad took off there with a customer. The customer was so impressed by my Dad that he offered him a job when he got home. A job with a raise that finally put him back to where he'd been nearly 10 years before he'd injured his back. Dad was hired, Mom was working as a nurse... and then came Canada Day. Three years ago. They were supposed to go out with Dad's new boss to his cabin. My Mom woke up, sick and dizzy. We figured it was just a flu, but we couldn't have been more wrong. Time dragged on, and by November my Mother was in the hospital and unable to walk, while suffering severe vertigo and being in immense pain. My Dad was at the hospital every single day. Every morning from 6AM until 730 when he left the hospital for work, and from 630 until 10 every night.

    This went on for a month. I took over a lot of responsibility, helped my younger sister with her homework, cooked dinners and tried to keep the house reasonably clean and the driveway free of snow. What did my Father's boss do?

    Fired him. The asshole fired him, and left him without a job. I'll never forget that moment of coming home and seeing my Dad on the couch. It's engraved into my memory. I know there's a lot of happy memories here, but one of the things I'll never forget was the feeling of having my Father bawl into my shoulder while I told him everything would be okay. I don't blame him for a minute for that either. It was the first time, it wasn't the last, and I'm proud to say that. I'm proud to say that when my Dad was at absolute rock bottom... I was there for him. I don't think I could ever fully put that day into words, nor would I ever try to, really. I just know that at that moment, I knew exactly how close we were.

    My Mother is still sick, has been to the hospital for four different times and for a month each occasion, but my Dad has found a fantastic job (working for Art Vanderly, one of the owners of the Oilers, and the owner of Steel Craft) after searching and flying through 2 other jobs over a year. He's now been at Steel Craft for over a year a half. It's been a trying time, without a doubt in my mind it will likely be one of the hardest things I've ever gone through, but I've been there with my Dad the entire time.

    He's taught me to give everyone a chance, to keep working no matter how hard things get, and that's it is okay to cry. He's given me an appreciation for Boston and AC/DC, introduced me to Beer and Whiskey and today he helped me buy a 2000 Ford Ranger. I love him, and I have absolutely no problem saying that to him or hearing it from him, nor do I have a problem giving him a hug. He's my Dad, he's a good guy that's been dealt a really shitty hand and has done everything he can to make it the best of it. We've had arguments and fights, but that's a part of growing up. It's his birthday and Father's day for him this weekend, and I've bought him an expensive bottle of wine that we'll share tomorrow and I'm taking out for a few beers tomorrow as well. He may not be perfect - but I know there's not a Father I could possibly love more than I love him.

    Happy Father's Day Dad. Happy Birthday Too.

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  13. Oh, and LT, if a guy were inclined to take you out for a beer, would he be able to do it?

    Drop me a line at HF.

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  14. Great stuff LT. Just wonderful.

    Happy Fathers Day to you.

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  15. Fantastic read, LT, as usual. Small world, too. I was playing slopitch and watching a baseball tournament between games at Maidstone just this past weekend (actually at Silver Lake, but it's close enough). It rained like a MOFO for two hours on Saturday and all day Sunday :) I can tell you one thing, the baseball league around those parts is damned fun to watch. Though one of them tagged a ball off the roof of my car ;)

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